1. Creating a Safe Space Best Practices for Creating a Safe Space Same Gender Spaces - Some of the most sensitive trauma a person can endure is inflicted by someone of the opposite gender. When discussing sensitive issues in forgiveness, we would suggest splitting into smaller groups of the same gender. This, we believe, is one of the most practical ways to hep cultivate a safe environment. Don't Give Advice - One of the most unhelpful things you or your Group can do for someone who is vulnerably sharing is to offer advice. Advice can often feel invalidating. It is likely that the person who is opening up is aware of the option before her/him. Start by thanking them for being vulnerable and validating the pain that they feel. Be Conscious of Your Responses - Oftentimes when discussing issues of forgiveness, people feel shame before even starting the conversation, whether they need to forgive or be forgiven. Our goal as followers of Jesus is to alleviate the shame our Group members are holding, not to add to it. Make sure to avoid shameful language and be careful not to be dismissive. Language is powerful, which means words can be easily misinterpreted as dismissive or condemning. Shame is dismantled by empathy. The way you respond will set the tone for everyone. Be conscious of your responses. Humility and seeking to understand is the best gift you can offer in this space. Ask Open-Ended Questions - The best way to keep a conversation going and to facilitate a safe space for people to share is to ask open-ended questions. Tread Softly - It is an honor to be invited into someone's story. Be sensitive to follow and to stay in step with the Holy Spirit. Be mindful of when and how to press into an area of pain; there is no formula for this, so be patient with the process. Remember, that we are not trained therapists and this is not a therapy session.